Senior Living Questions & Answers2019-01-30T19:48:30+00:00

Senior Living Q&A

Looking at senior living options for your loved one (or yourself!) means you have questions to ask and research to do. What questions do you have? Let us help you find the answers by:

  1. Filling out this form & talking to a senior living advisor
  2. Exploring the resources below

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Q: What Do I Need to Know Before Crisis Hits?

A Genworth Financial study showed that 7 in 10 Americans over the age of 65 will need long-term care at some point in their life. Over 90% have not discussed long-term care with their loved ones. Will you be ready if and when crisis hits? What important things must one consider?

First and foremost, it’s important to have an honest conversation. Some questions you can ask your parents are:

  1. What is their perspective on their long-term care?
  2. How do they want to live out their lives?
  3. What are their medical & safety needs?
  4. What can they afford?
  5. Is everyone (loved one, family, friends) on board?

Secondarily, it’s important to get some professional help. Begin by talking to:

  1. ADRC (Aging & Disability Resource Center)
  2. An eldercare attorney
  3. Your parents’ primary care physician
  4. Long-term care communities
  5. A geriatric care mananger

While exploring professional help, you can:

  1. Find out where the necessary paperwork is located
  2. Put a plan in writing so it can be implemented at a moment’s notice
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Q: How Much Does Senior Living Really Cost?

As you explore the possibility of senior living, one of the first questions you’ll want to be answered is “how much will it cost?” It’s a good and fair question, but it’s also a bit more complicated than that. Several factors impact what you’ll pay.

Before we explore the costs of senior living, let’s look at the options available as one considers long-term care:

  1. Continue living at home
  2. Move in with a loved one
  3. Have loved one move in with you
  4. Hire a live-in caregiver
  5. Hire a part-time caregiver or home health care agency
  6. Move to a senior living community

What are the monthly costs of living at home if you don’t need extra help? Based on a $200k home in Metro Milwaukee area:

  1. Maintenance – $500
  2. Home Owner’s Insurance – $50
  3. Property Taxes – $400
  4. Food – $250 per person
  5. Utilities (gas, electric, telephone) – $150
  6. Water/Sewer – $75
  7. Sanitation – $10
  8. Outdoor Maintenance (Lawn, Snow, Landscaping) – $75

That’s $1510 (not including mortgage). If you assume another $1000 for a mortgage, you’re up to $2510. That’s not living for free and it assumes good health.

What other unexpected or optional costs are we not considering?

  • Home renovation – A wheelchair ramp, walk-in shower/bath, and raised toilet or converting stairs to an elevator.
  • Caregiver or Home Health Care –  Approximately $42,600/yr for 44 hours of service/week (6 hrs/day) which averages to $3,500/month. What if the weather prohibits them from coming?
  • Transportation – Car (payments, insurance and/or maintenance) or senior taxi services.
  • Socialization & entertainment
  • Security – an alarm or pendant costs $100/mo for 24/hr

Most of these costs are included in your cost of living in a senior living community.

If you decide to stay in your home, it’s important to recognize that our homes don’t always increase or hold steady in value.

  • Neighborhood is a factor
  • Condition of your home is a factor
  • Real estate market is a factor

Your health is your biggest asset, not your home – make your home work for you instead of against you

We’ve determined that the costs of living at home, depending on one’s health, is between $1500 and $6,700 a month. So, what are the costs of senior living?

Utilities, security, maintenance of living at home are included! Plus at least one meal a day. Supportive living services are available and allow you to stay independent longer.

Affordable, abundant living which brings peace of mind is a reality. Dare to compare the costs yourself!

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Q: What Is Senior Living Really Like?

A Genworth Financial study shows that 7 in 10 Americans 65+ will need long term care. More than 90% have not talked about it with their spouse, aging parents or adult children.
If we’re honest, we can be pretty good at coming up with excuses to not do things that might be good for us. The journey towards senior living can be a long one filled with difficult conversations, challenges to overcome, homes to sell and discerning myth from fact. Here are some of the top myths surrounding senior living and some facts to consider.

Myth: I’ll lose my independence.

70% of residents and 75% of their family members are more likely to report a good quality of life versus those still living at home

Many seniors find their lives to be more independent in a senior living community than if they stayed home.
The facts are:
  • You’re free to come and go as you please.
  • The goal of most senior living communities is to keep you as dependent as your health allows you to be.
  • You learn how to better care for yourself as you get older.
  • Driving is encouraged, parking is available. Bring your car!
  • Transportation available for shopping, appointments, doctor visits, trips, etc.

Myth: I’ll have to give up the things I love and my favorite hobbies.

64% of family members notice social well-being improvements in their loved one.
Not only will you be able to continue doing what you love in senior living, you’re likely to pick up new interests and hobbies. The facts are:
  • With 30+ activities offered a week at Luther Manor, most residents have a hard time figuring out what to do day to day.
  • Activities can be catered to your interests and hobbies.
  • The only thing you’ll need to give up are chores, yard work, and home maintenance!

Myth: The food in senior living is terrible. 

73% of family members notice nutritional improvements in their loved ones.
Everyone is concerned about their dining experience, no matter where it is. Luther Manor has dining options to suit everyone: Order direct from a menu, get a 5-course meal in our dining rooms, grab a sandwich in the deli or simply enjoy a meal at home. Our menus change as often as 4 times a year and it’s the residents’ input that helps us determine how the menus change! The facts are:
  • Choice and variety is king in senior living.
  • Taste is just as important as nutrition.
  • Communities are considerate of health needs and restrictions.
  • There are dine in or take out options.
  • Room delivery is available.

Myth: I’ll never be able to downsize or sell my home.

Everyone worries about it, but it can be done! You just need to decide to do it.  The facts are:
  • The current housing market is the best it’s been for sellers. Now is the time to sell!
  • If you really take a look at things in your home, you’ll find the things that are essential and what you can do away with.
  • Senior Move Managers are available to help you think through the details and find new homes for what you decide to leave behind.
  • Many communities are open to letting residents change and add to their apartment as one desires – after all, it’s your home!

Myth: My kids are fine taking care of me.

A Genworth Financial study shows that 7 in 10 Americans 65+ will need long term care. More than half reported their greatest fear is being a burden on their family due to a long-term care health issue.
A move into a senior living community can be a gift to both seniors and their adult children. Rather than the worry and stress of being a caregiver, parents can be parents and children can be children again. Many residents report improvements in stress, diet, exercise, careers and family relationships.

Myth: I can’t afford it. It’s too expensive.

Costs can vary but in many communities, the cost of living can oftentimes be less than remaining at home. It’s important to do a cost comparison of your home vs. senior living. Make sure to include costs associated with increased need for health care (in-home health care, retrofitting your house, etc.) The facts are:
  • Senior living costs include housing, home maintenance, utilities, food, entertainment, transportation, etc.
  • You’ll pay no more mortgages or property taxes.
  • There are options for payment (you can rent or own).
  • Assets that can be used for payment include your home, investments, long-term care insurance, veteran benefits, etc.
  • Many non-profit communities have a Foundation to assist with costs where needed.

Myth: Everyone is sick or dying. It’s depressing.

44% of family members notice physical health improvements in their loved ones.
It can be hard to come to grips with the reality of aging, losing one’s independence, or leaving the place that has always been home. Studies have shown that seniors stay healthier, more active and live longer in retirement communities than in their own home. The facts are:
  • Many senior living communities have regular wellness and fitness programs to keep residents active and healthy.
  • There are safety checks, but otherwise you maintain your independence.
  • When help is needed, 24-hour care is available.
  • Doctors, dentists, pharmaceutical help, specialists are in-house. No need to go anywhere else!

Myth: I’m not ready. I don’t need it

People that have end-of-life discussions prior to needing it save 1/3 of the cost as those who don’t. The facts are:
  • Senior living isn’t just for people who can’t take of themselves anymore.
  • You want to make the move while you have the choice.
  • It’s better to be in the driver’s seat and do it when you can, not once a crisis hits.
  • Most senior living residents wish they would have made the move years earlier.
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Q: Which Senior Living Community is the Right One?

It doesn’t matter how young or old you are, deciding where you want to live is a big deal! There are so many different senior living communities it’s hard to know where to start when choosing the one for you. When you are considering different retirement communities, predetermine your personal preferences so you know what you want before you start looking.

  1. Location, location, location! How important is the proximity to your family and friends? What about being close to your healthcare providers, as well as entertainment and shopping?
  2. One size does not fit all. Retirement communities run the gamut from extremely large to small and cozy. Some offer singular levels of care and services, like Assisted Living Facilities, while others like Life Plan Communities (also known as Continuing Care Retirement Communities or CCRCs) offer an entire continuum of care all on the same campus.
  3. Future care needs. When your needs are larger or more intensive than some senior communities can offer, you will need to move to another facility that offers a higher level of care. If you get too sick to take care of yourself, where would you like to go?
  4. Affordability. Many retirement communities have an entrance fee, as well as monthly rent. Do your research and find out what is included and if there are extra costs. You also need to ask what will happen if you run out of money. You may need to move to another facility if the community doesn’t offer financial support options.
  5. Quality. Read online reviews and state surveys before touring. While touring, inquire about staff-to-resident ratios, response time to residents, the longevity of staff, and whether or not there is a registered nurse on site. Also, swing by the dining room and evaluate the quality of the food.
  6. Staying active and social. Being active and engaged is usually easy at a retirement community, with some offering up to 40 activities a week! Most will happily accommodate you so you can practice your favorite hobbies or even start a social club.       
  7. Features and amenities. Senior living communities often have onsite gyms, swimming pools, and other exercise necessities. Other amenities include onsite beauty and barber shops, restaurants, banks, and large rooms available for entertaining.
  8. Transportation. If you are still driving, you’ll want to know if you can bring your own car and if there is an additional cost for parking. Indoor parking is usually available. If you are unable to drive, ask about the transportation options and costs for both entertainment-related trips, as well as medical appointments.
  9. For-profit versus not-for-profit. Take a look at the senior community’s finances if available. Consider how many locations they have and how long they’ve been in business, as well as how resident-centered they are. Make sure to ask what happens if you run out of assets or if they have a charitable foundation in place to help financially exhausted residents.
  10. Other considerations. Perhaps you’d like to bring Fluffy when you move or are allergic to peanuts. Not all senior living communities allow pets or are able to accommodate special diets. It’s also important to decide if you would prefer to live in a faith-based community, and if so, what denomination.
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Q: How Do I Talk to My Loved Ones About Senior Living?

Some of the most important conversations we need to have with the seniors we love are often the most difficult ones. Whether it be retirement plan
ning, selling a home, physical care needs, or whether it’s time to stop driving. The wisdom in planning means having options versus having no or severely limited options. How do we begin to have these much-needed conversations?

1. Recognize the risk of waiting

We tend to wait to have important life planning conversations. There are several reasons for that.

  • We fear rejection.
  • There is discomfort when speaking the truth into another’s life
.
  • We think someone else can or should do it
.

2. Recognize the signs that a conversation is necessary

  • Your loved one’s medication is in disorder.
  • There are dents in the car or accidents and damage to the home.
  • Changes in appearance or the condition of their home
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  • A new chronic illness diagnosis or failing health.
  • Appointments
 are being missed.
  • Stacks of mail unopened
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  • Bills are not being paid.
  • No evidence of meal preparation and/or an empty refrigerator.

3. Understand how to set the stage

Typically, it is best to limit the conversation to immediate family only. A blend of in town and out of town family members is helpful. If it makes sense, it is okay to invite your pastor, priest or rabbi. Here are some other tips to consider:

  • Ensure that all family members presenting are on the same page
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  • Have a specific agenda & assignments
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  • Have facts and observations ready to discuss.
  • Do not talk over & listen!
  • Do not have the conversation at a family function or holiday setting.
  • 
Provide a comfortable setting & seating.
  • Ensure no interruptions (cell phones, TV
, etc.).
  • Be prepared & pray!

4. Know what to say

  • Acknowledge the sensitive topic at hand.
  • Say “I love you, I am so very concerned when I see this, we need to talk please.”
  • Use humor when possible.
  • Stay calm, avoid anger, keep volume down.
  • Be respectful.
  • Gently present the facts.
  • Be curious and ask follow up questions.
  • Remark on points of agreement-focus on agreement use as stepping stones.
  • Accept compromise when needed to build a plan.
  • Expect & accept that a repeat conversation(s) may be needed.

5. Know what not to say

  • Avoid demands.
  • Avoid personal attacks, accusations, or yelling.
  • Avoid grouping all important conversations at once.
  • Avoid being emotional.
  • Avoid any patronizing speech.

6. Know when to “wrap it up”

  • Hugs (as acceptable).
  • Express appreciation for having the conversation.
  • Summarize action steps.
  • Do your part (What is your assignment?).
  • Don’t lose momentum.
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Q: How Do I Help My Loved Ones Overcome Their Objections to Senior Living?

When discussing the move to senior living with your older loved ones, it’s important to be prepared. Your mom or dad will most likely have questions and objections related to the move. It’s a big decision and it is important they are involved!

Some of the most common objections are:

Objection One:

“I’m not ready!” Most people are in denial about their age and mortality; it is hard to accept reality. Our minds and spirits don’t always match our aging process, plus many may view the move as “giving up.”

Overcome Mom or Dad being in denial by talking to them openly and having a dialogue. Be committed to keep having this conversation, it will need to happen more than once. Be honest about life circumstances and diagnoses, while reminding them aging is a gift.

Objection Two:

“Retirement communities are where you go to die!” Many older adults associate the term senior living with the nursing homes their grandparents and parents experienced. They may also have the misconception that retirement communities are boring and “filled with old people.”

Challenge these common misconceptions by touring nearby communities and see for yourselves! When you tour a senior living community you are able to see the amenities and activities offered for yourself. Take the time to speak to residents while you’re there so you can understand the true experience of the retirement community. It’s also great to visit the community’s website to read testimonials and watch video stories. Ask the community if you and your loved one can attend some of the activities and eat on campus before you make your decision.

Objection Three:

“I can’t afford it!” Many older adults are concerned about finances. They may believe they can’t afford to live in a retirement community or are afraid to spend their money. Many seniors forget about the current and future costs of living in their house.

When speaking about financial concerns it’s important to take a few things into account. First, compare the true costs of living at home versus the costs of senior living. Make sure to consider the potential need for renovation and future in-home care if health needs change. Second, find out if your loved one has long-term care insurance — this could help pay for senior living, depending on the type of community. Third, approach your conversations with respect and understanding. Remind your loved one their home is not their biggest asset, their health is their biggest asset. Why spend money on their home and not their health and well-being? Encourage your loved one to give him or herself the gift of being safe, happy and healthy.

Objection Four:

“I’ve lived in my home for more than 40 years! I have too much stuff to move!” The thought of leaving a long-time home can be paralyzing or overwhelming emotionally. Packing and moving possessions can also be potentially too physically demanding for some people.

Think of the moving process as rightsizing, not downsizing and remind your Mom or Dad one they don’t need to move alone. You and other loved ones can help sort through possessions. This objection is usually more about the memories than the items alone. There are also professional senior move managers who can help or even complete the process for you, including packing up, moving and unpacking!

Lastly, don’t wait until a crisis hits and the choice to move to a senior living or assisted living community isn’t yours, or theirs, to make. Start talking with your older loved ones now and schedule tours so all of you can see senior living for yourselves.

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Q: How Do I Begin the Process of Downsizing & Moving?

Moving is one of the biggest decisions of your life! The emotions and work involved can seem overwhelming, but your new lifestyle will make everything worth the initial hassle. There are some tips and tricks to make the transition easier to manage for older adults. It’s important to remember you’re not in this alone!

Older adults may prefer to work with a Senior Real Estate Specialist — someone who is trained in and has experience with working with seniors. They’ll be able to advise and help with the practical parts of selling a house, including:

  • Deciding the value of the home and other financial planning
  • The timing of the sale
  • Determining the necessary size of the new residence
  • Legalities surrounding the sale and inspection; other realtor services
  • Which home improvements and updates should be made before putting it on the market
  • Staging the home to make it more attractive to potential sellers

A Certified Senior Move Manager can make the move easier, by helping with the emotional parts. They will:

  • Consult with you to create a plan, broken down into manageable steps with predetermined roles for all involved
  • Act as an intermediary, if necessary, between older adults and their adult children
  • Go through possessions and help to determine which to keep and which to pack
  • Help pack and move!
  • Arrange an estate sale or charitable donation pick up

Here’s how to start the process:

  1. Plan your future home. See what’s available; tour nearby senior communities to decide which is right for you.
  2. Determine how much your home is worth. (A Senior Real Estate Specialist can help)
  3. Decide where you would like to move.
  4. Start to downsize — engaging the help of a Certified Senior Move Manager
  5. Prepare for the sale
  6. Sell your house
  7. Move — Enjoy your new home!
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Q: What’s the Difference Between Supportive Living & Assisted Living?

Most of us are familiar with the “big three” of senior living communities: Independent Living, Assisted Living and Skilled Nursing. At a high level, here are the differences between each living area:
  • Independent Living residents are self-directed, manage activities of daily living, maintain their own mobility, exhibit good grooming/bathing habits, and seek help as needed. Additionally, they demonstrate good judgment in order to assure the safety of themselves and others.
  • Assisted Living residents are mainly independent, mobile and live in their own apartment but require help with their activities of daily living (meals, medication management, bathing, dressing, transportation, etc.) and provision for any medical needs.
  • Skilled Nursing residents require 24/7 care in the short-term (such as rehabilitation) or long-term due to a chronic medical condition.
Of course, not everyone who can benefit from a senior living community is going to necessarily fit into one of those areas. For the person who isn’t a fit for assisted living but still needs some assistance in order to maintain their independence, Life Plan Communities like Luther Manor offer supportive livingSupportive living services and assistance is provided to those living independently as part of an RCAC (Residential Care Apartment Complex). Supportive living services staff are available 24/7 and provide daily reassurance checks. In addition:
      • Services are state regulated
      • Plans are individualized with input from health professionals
      • Plans can be adjusted
      • Plans can be on-going or as short as 1 month
Examples of supportive living services are:
      • Medication management
      • Assistance with other medical needs
      • Assistance with bathing, dressing, grooming
      • Housekeeping
      • Laundry assistance
      • Light meal preparation
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Q: Why Should I Talk to An Elder Care Attorney First?

What is an Elder Care Attorney?

An Elder Care Attorney focuses on a large range of legal matters related to older or disabled persons. In short, an elder care attorney helps with getting legal documents in order and help you know if your wishes are legal in your state.

What can an Elder Care Attorney help me with?

An elder care attorney can help you with financial and estate planning, future health care planning, creating a durable power of attorney and financial power of attorney, and other important issues of older adults. They can also help you facilitate long-term care and financial discussions with your family in case you become incapacitated.

What legal documents should seniors have in place?

There’s a lot of confusion as to what documents older adults need, and when they should have them in place. As laws change, many people also question if their documents are still legal. These documents are suggested for older adults – or really any adult – to have in place or to discuss with an Elder Care Attorney:

  • Durable Power of Attorney: Also known as a financial power of attorney or durable power of attorney for finances. A durable power of attorney appoints someone to be your financial agent, is active the date it is signed and endures through your incapacity.
  • Health Care Power of Attorney: A health care directive that is also known as a durable power of attorney for health care or medical power of attorney. A health care power of attorney appoints someone to advocate with health care providers so you receive the treatment preferences you have legally outlined. It is almost never active the day it is made and needs to be activated. When you expire, the health care power of attorney’s authority expires.
  • Will: A will, also known as a last will and testament, lets you leave instructions about how your property and assets are distributed after you die. You can also name a personal representative, guardians for your children or pets, and decide how debts and taxes will be paid. In order for a will to be carried out, a court process (probate) is necessary.
  • Revocable Living Trust: An estate planning vehicle that allows for a higher control of assets under the appointment of a trustee, helps to avoid probate and has potential estate tax benefits. Any property the trust maker wants to be covered by the trust must be transferred into the trust’s ownership.

No matter your wishes for your future care, and your assets after your death, it is important to let your loved ones know. An Elder Care Attorney can help facilitate this discussion and make sure the legal documentation is in place to ensure your wishes are carried out in accordance with the law in your state.

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Q: What Questions Should Seniors Ask While Future Planning?

87% of adults over the age of 65 want to stay in their current home as they age. The truth is, this may not be the best option. Here are the questions you should be asking yourself and your older loved ones when planning for the future:

  • Will I be safe in my home?
    Will I have to spend a lot of money to make my home safe? Your home may need renovations as you age, for example converting a bathtub into a walk-in shower and adding a bench, or retrofitting different kitchen cabinets into easier-to-reach options. Stairs may become too difficult to manage. Even small details need to be considered. For instance, rugs can serve as tripping hazards, or you may need a grab bar next to the toilet.
  • Do I want to live near, or with, my children or other relatives?
    Many people assume they will move in with their son or daughter when they grow older, with visions of taking care of grandkids and saving money. Before you make this decision, ask yourself if you will have enough privacy. It’s important to also ask your children what they will expect from you while you consider what you expect of them. Focus on questions like, “What happens if my health deteriorates and I’m unable to shower alone?” and “How much do you expect me to contribute financially?”
  • Can I afford to perform maintenance on the house I currently live in?
    Consider the cost of lawn care, snow removal, and household repairs. Will you be able to pay for these household expenses when you are unable to perform them yourself? Expect these costs to increase with inflation.
  • If I can’t drive, how will I get places?
    When you are unable to drive yourself, you will need to know of other transportation options. These range from public transportation, to car services, to depending on your friends and family. Are any of these options viable for you?
  • What happens if I run out of money?
    Meet with a financial planner or elder care attorney to determine the best course of financial action. Many non-profit senior communities provide support for residents who have exhausted their financials and will advise on the ways to apply for federal financial aid.
  • Does my family understand my long-term plan?
    Make sure your wishes are in writing and you’ve discussed them in detail with your loved ones! An Elder Care Attorney is a perfect place to start. He or she can help you establish a medical and financial power of attorney, and will advise on completing Do Not Resuscitate orders, draw up a will or living trust, and more.
  • Will I need to pay for in-home care and how much does it cost?
    Consider these activities of daily living (also known as ADLs): Will I be able to prepare nutritious meals? Will I  be able to manage my medications properly? Can I bathe on my own safely? Can I dress myself? When you are no longer able to complete one or more of these activities on your own, you will need to bring in extra help. Costs vary on the amount of care needed, but the national median cost of home health services in 2016 was $42,603 based on 44 hours of service per week.

There’s a lot to consider when planning for your future, but there are resources available to help! Consider meeting with a financial planner, consulting an Elder Care Attorney, and touring senior living communities in your area well before you are planning on needing services.

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Q: How Can Senior Living Also Be a Blessing to Adult Children?

The decision to move your aging parent into an assisted living facility is never an easy choice. It may be the best care option available, but sometimes you can’t avoid feeling guilty and worried that they might resent your decision.

It’s natural for adult children to feel a sense of guilt for moving an elderly parent into a senior living solution. You’ll question whether you’re doing the right thing – Will they be happy? Will they be well cared for?

The most important thing is to remember, it’s in the best interest of your parent. With all the advantages that assisted living has to offer, here are 6 reasons to stop feeling guilty.

  1. Social Circle. If your parent is isolated at home, at a senior living community they’ll revitalize their spirit with a social network of their peers, group activities, games, outings, moving screenings, plays, and picnics. Your loved ones may have more of social calendar than you!
  2. Home Sweet Home. Senior communities are built with comfort and independence in mind. They look more like apartments or condominiums, making it easier for your loved one to move into.
  3. On-site Help. While independent living is intended for those who don’t require a great deal of medical care, Life Plan Communities like Luther Manor have on-site health care staff and promote healthy living solutions so residents can continue to prosper and prolong their good health through healthy eating options and exercise classes, to name a few. As your parent needs assistance with eating, bathing, toileting, dressing, there is high-quality help available.
  4. No More Chores. Communities offer meal plans, housekeeping, and laundry service. While the idea is for your parent to remain as independent as possible, these services assist them in the daily activities they may have been neglecting at home.
  5. Safe and Sound. With security systems and onsite personnel, your parent doesn’t have to worry about neighborhood break-ins or unwanted solicitors. Senior living facilities provide 24-hour safety and security so day or night, help is only a phone call away if your parent needs assistance.
  6. You Get To Be a Son/Daughter Again. With the first five of this list being true, and Mom or Dad being happy, engaged and safe and sound, you don’t need to play the role of caregiver. They get to be Mom or Dad. You get to be their kid again!

No matter how desperately you may want to do everything possible to keep your parents in their home or find a way to provide the care they need in your home, this is not always an option. An aging parent may require specialized care and attention that you are not able to provide or may need more assistance throughout the day than your work schedule will allow.

When these emotions come up and you feel guilty about your elder care decision, remind yourself that just like your parent spent your younger years making the best possible decisions for you based on the information they had and the options available, you need to make the best possible senior care decision for your parent.

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